I celebrated by having a whole weekend! Friday night, drinks with one of my good friends. Saturday, I prepared for an afternoon party with family & close friends at my home. Music, balloons, snacks, and games. Then, my friends and I went to Andretti's- a local indoor Go-Karting area. (Muse actually went there once!) Then the next morning, worked hard for IWeLife at the Rocket Run 5K, then off to Six Flags.
Family, best friends, food, presents, adventures, birthday wishes from friends all around the world. A pretty epic weekend to ring in the new decade, if you ask me!
Then, why is this blog post entitled "Sometimes bad things happen (and that's OK)? Seems a little off, right?
Well, not so much. Sometimes you've got to take the good with the bad, and vice versa. I even wrote more on this subject in my other post- "My advice on being positive"
I'm writing this for several reasons. A few things happened this weekend that inspired me to write this, and in turn I hope this inspires you in some way as well.
During my epic weekend I did have a few bad things happen. The biggest one was when I was out on Saturday night, and somehow some of my cash went missing. I won't say how much- it was enough to upset me at the time. Maybe it fell out, maybe it was misplaced, maybe it was spent and forgotten, or maybe it was stolen.
I'm usually very careful about these sorts of things. So for something to happen, on my birthday of all days, it was a little frustrating. A zillion thoughts ran through my head during the moments:
"Why did this have to happen to me?" "I could have used that for this and this" "Why wasn't I more careful, I'm such an idiot" "I'm so angry, I'm about to start throwing things" "I think I'm gonna cry" "I don't want to put a damper on my friends' good time" "This is so unfair" "WHYYYYY"
And so forth, I'm sure you've been there and know the drill. It's frustrating, it's sad, it's irritating. It's just a bad thing that happens!
I feel like life gives us a balance of good and bad, and it really depends on the outlook and the energy you put back in. I know I've had my fair share of fair and unfair, awesome and devastating. I usually tend to share the awesome ones, because I'd rather send out positive vibes than negative ones.
Back to that balance thing, it really seems to happen. I get bad things happening to me a lot- being clumsy, dropping things, losing things, being hurt, not handling something the way I should have, struggling with work and life in general. But, I also get a lot of good things- meeting amazing people, finding awesome treasures, having amazing times, winning something. It's that balance!
I'd like to think I kept a pretty level head during those moments when things weren't going so hot for me. I'm the type to try to put a positive spin on everything, because like I said, life is short and full of good and bad- why not make the best of it? I'd much rather think about the happy times than the bad ones. In addition, even though I'm an idealist (I dream big), I try to think logically- "How is dwelling on this going to solve anything?"
Life isn't always going to go perfect. It would probably be nice, but kinda boring, wouldn't you say? Good things will happen, and bad things will happen, to everyone. It's all in how we deal, how we cope. They say when life gets more challenging, you're just leveling up! I think so, it's part of growing up and maturing.
So when dealing with that loss, I let myself feel my feelings and looked for a solution. When one was not found, I used my brain magic to accept the situation:
- Maybe somebody found it and needed it more, and it made their day
- Maybe the universe was saying "you're having too good of a day, stop that!" to balance things out
- Maybe gnomes stole it for profit
- I may have had bad luck today, but if I continue to do good and be positive, it will come back to me. (It's happened before)
All kinds of things, to lighten the situation and make it more humorous. I couldn't change what had happened, I could only accept it.
Now as you all know, being an animator and a kid at heart, I love my cartoons, so I'm going to start referencing a couple of my favorite cartoons.
One of my favorite scenes in Legend of Korra was when she visited the spirit world. She talked with Uncle Iroh, the wise tea man we love. She began to get upset, and that made the spirits around her upset and turn dark. The darker they turned, the more upset she got.
(Skip to 2:45 for this part)
Then, he says these amazing words:
If you're looking for bad or negative things, you will see them everywhere, it doesn't matter who or what! Is that any fun? Maybe for some, but not for me!
How about fun, positive things? Happy things? Who doesn't like to be happy? I know that I do! It's understandable we can't always be happy, but I personally think it's healthier to be positive. Believe it or not, everything we do sends an outward ripple into the world. The energy you're putting in, you give to the world and it comes back to you.
Now, onto one of my favorite shows. This was a My Little Pony episode that aired on my birthday, and it was quite amazing. It really hit home close to my heart.
She actually goes through the Kübler-Ross model:
- She is told he must hibernate and she says that everyone is wrong, it's not true (Denial)
- She lashes out and gets angry at her friends (Anger)
- She tries to stop winter from happening (Bargaining)
- She cries her eyes out (Depression)
- She accepts Tank must hibernate and says goodbye (Acceptance)
Wow! Not only was it about my favorite character, but there was some real development, a deep meaning, and an overall amazing story. The whole episode was a metaphor for a loss or a death. I think that "Hibernation" could have been that metaphor. He's even "buried" at the end (when he burrows into a hole), and she reads to him next to the spot where he is.
It's even entitled "Tanks for the memories"- Thanks for the memories and that whatever the loss was, the memory will always be held in your heart.
I think the loss could be about anything- a dear friend moving away, losing something precious, and so on. Loss happens to everyone - it's normal and healthy to feel the feelings and accept them. It's okay.
She also cries which is something she hardly does, so the scene itself was pretty emotional. This is something we've all experienced-dealing with loss and overcoming it.
No matter how big or small. It's a part of life.
Life is what it is. Such is life. C'est la vie. There will be fun times, sad times, epic times, angry times, lonely times, scared times, and everything in between. Just remember it will all be okay, and enjoy the ride!